The Guide to Erectile Dysfunction – For Ladies Only!

Perhaps one of the most overlooked topics pertaining to erectile dysfunction is the impact it has on the woman in the relationship. It is undeniably an extremely difficult time for a man but, as countless studies have reiterated, a healthy marriage is made of many things, a healthy sex life for both men and women being one of them. When sex isn’t working for one partner, it’s not working for the other.


When erectile dysfunction happens, men face an array of emotions. A combination of fear, anxiety, embarrassment and shame are commonly the frontrunners. While you can’t relate entirely to all that is going through his mind, you can be there to help him along the journey.

First off, it’s important to be understanding and supportive, this is a difficult time for your partner. This support should be a two-way street. It’s not uncommon for women to feel rejected, unattractive or inadequate when her partner experiences ED. Remember, this is a very common problem, one that more than 30 million American men will experience in their lifetime. Most often it has nothing to do with a man’s feelings for his wife and it’s certainly not because he doesn’t want to be intimate with you.


So how do you know if the problem is simply a physical one or a sign of some underlying relationship problem? You may have heard that men gage the health of their relationship by the health of their sex life. While this is one factor, it’s not the whole thing and when a man simply cannot get or maintain an erection hard enough for sex, it seems a logical conclusion that this has more to do with his overall physical health than with the health of the relationship if it appears to otherwise be working well. Communication is the key to making sure both partners are happy and secure with one another.


Often when ED symptoms first appear, your partner may be too embarrassed to speak up about it, which can only perpetuate the anxiety for both of you. Take the opportunity to voice your concerns. Sexual dysfunction can be a sign of an underlying physical problem and for this reason it doesn’t pay to wait for him to discuss the matter. Many studies have linked ED to diabetes, heart problems and high cholesterol, among many other things. This being said, however, ED does not always mean that a serious problem, like those previously mentioned, is occurring. Like any aspect of your health, it’s important to monitor and discuss symptoms with your prescribing physician.


If your partner has not had his heart checked or blood pressure and cholesterol monitored, this is a good place to start. Once you have ruled out these more serious conditions, then you can look at lifestyle choices. Is he a smoker? Does he exercise? Is he constantly stressed? All these factors can contribute to sexual changes.


When you first broach the topic, he will either be relieved or he may be defensive. Wherever the conversation starts to go, it’s extremely important that you refer to it as “our problem,” not “your problem,” “we” instead of “you.” These little differences in the way you speak to him can actually help put him at ease and assure him that you want to help him get through this together, as partners.


Once medical complications have been treated or ruled out, he may want to take medication to help overcome the symptoms of ED. Viagra®, Levitra®, and Cialis®, are among the most popular medications available on the market and have a high success rate.


The next obstacle to overcome is the toll it takes on the intimacy of the relationship. Often, even after starting a medication, men deal with a sort of performance anxiety as they worry about not being able to achieve or maintain an erection. Fortunately, medications like Viagra®, are highly successful in helping men overcome this. Make sure to support him through the entire process and keep the lines of communication open at all times. With all ED medications, you may not see the full effect until the 3rd or 4th dose. This is normal for many men, so help him understand it may just take a little time. Concentrate on bringing the romance back into your relationship during this period.


When’s the last time then two of you had a date night? Take time for the nonsexual aspects of intimacy and the rest will follow suit.


As a couple, you have probably faced and overcome many challenges in the past. With a little understanding, lots of communication and the help of a physician your sex life can get back on track in no time.


For more reading on ED, check out the articles below

What’s so bad about “generic” Viagra?
The impact of erectile dysfunction on marriage and relationships
5 reasons you shouldn’t be embarrassed about erectile dysfunction


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